Parenting a child is a trigger which activates all the hidden skills in you. There is an invisible fact in the parenting process, which many of us often don’t realize. We miss the truth that every child teaches his parent a valuable life lesson or a skill or a character almost everyday. And when you have twins, there is no wonder they make you a super mom. Here today I will be discussing the 11 skills you develop from raising twin toddlers.
Your child is your virtual teacher
If you are a parent, then there should be one smart teacher who is drilling and shaping you every single moment. And it can be no one other than your master brainbox, naughty, extremely active, tiny little toddler. Yes! Your child is your virtual teacher.
You learn many things from your kid either directly or through his behaviors and actions. He innately trains you to bring the best out of you. For instance,
- You never know that you have so much patience until you master in handling your child’s tantrums without loosing your cool.
- You could have been a lazy, lethargic person but your child must have now turned you into an energetic person capable of multitasking.
- The boring personality in you would have been lost once your child entered your life.
So with every action he teaches something to you. He builds your personality, your skills. Dealing with his tantrums and handling his requirements might seem to be tiresome, but in reality he is bringing a lot of positive changes within you.
We don’t recognize this transformation often and even if we do, we don’t relate it to our child. But your kid is the driver who remolds you to be much more efficient.
We often say,
“These skills helped me in raising my child”.
“These are the skills I developed from raising my child”
looks much perfect.
Parenting can be wearing at times. But don’t get into a self-pity mode. Freshen yourself, by exploring what you have gained from this and how your child has shaped you into ONE FINE AND STRONG PERSON.
11 Skills you develop from raising twin toddlers
If you are a twin parent, your kids will be grooming you even more. They will make you turn all the impossibles into possibles. Managing twin toddlers is hard but eventually it develops many of your skills which you never knew you had before.
Let’s find out the 11 skills you develop from raising twin toddlers. Most of them are serious stuff and few of them may sound hilarious even. But still those funny skills were instilled in you by your twins which has created a great bonding between you and your kids.
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#1 Indefatigable Full Time Referee
Every Mom with two or more kids have to take the role of a referee pretty often. But since there will be an age difference between the kids, one or the other will adjust and settle with an alternative at some point of time.
But if you are a twin mom, you will ultimately become a referee all through the day. There will be never ending fights and arguments between your twins. For toys, for dress, for books or simply for who is going to take bath first. None of the two will be ready to settle to a solution.
You have to pitch in, analyze and declare judgments. And there are chances that they will not accept your judgement. They will extremely test your patience. But you cannot give up on your kids and let them fight. So you will continue and tirelessly perform the referee job day-on-day. You have no other choice 🙂
You become an indefatigable full time referee !
#2 Good Planner and Master in Setting Routines
To cope up with twins, you need a system setup right from their infancy. Whether or not you start twin parenting with proper planning and routines, sooner or later you will realize that is what you will need.
If you pre-plan, define schedules and follow them, your life with twins will be much easier. You could have been a clumsy person, but your twins will make you more organized.
You become a good planner and master in setting routines!
#3 Acquire a Sharp Memory
Whether you have a bad, good or better memory, your twins will sharpen it each day. To avoid the unceasing fights for toys, dresses or every other object they see, you practice your twins to take turns.
For the initial few days everything will go fine. But as days pass by, you will be in a situation where you have to remember every spec of the detail. Like who wore which dress two months back or who used the orange color toy car a week ago or simply who brushed the teeth first yesterday and on and on.
You have to identify whose turn it is in each and every aspect. To avoid further tantrums you will learn to keep even petty things related to your twins deep in the mind. Right from the toys till the handkerchief they use ! But still it doesn’t guarantee, there won’t be a fight 🙂
You acquire a sharp memory !
#4 Effectively Handle Double Tantrums
Handling a single toddler’s tantrum is a wearing errand. And when you have double joys at home, no wonder your mind will be tearing apart.
One toddler will throw a tantrum and after much effort you will calm him down. In the next few minutes or even seconds, the other kid will be all set to throw his tantrum. And the cycle repeats infinite number of times.
There can be even scenarios when you have to encounter double tantrums. The two of them will be shooting right at you, at the same time.
Initially, all this will crash your strength and ability very badly. But soon you will get used to it and learn the tricks to handle any number and any kind of tantrums. There will be tiny wars happening everyday with your little ones, in your little home !
You effectively handle double tantrums !
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#5 Stay Vigilant Anywhere, Anytime
Twin toddlers tend to hurt each other when something doesn’t happen as they wish. They are not matured enough to understand the consequences of hitting their twin sibling. Even if you explain them no matter how many times, they will still be inclined to hitting and hurting each other. So you will always have an eye on them whether you are near or away doing other chores.
When you are raising twin toddlers, you cannot have an alone time even in the restroom. Your mind will be constantly racing “Will they hurt each other? I have to rush!!” This may sound funny. But this is the fair truth. Wherever you are, you will learn to stay alert and check on your toddlers every single moment. You never know when your little warriors will get into a war !
You stay vigilant anywhere, anytime!
#6 Provide Balanced Love to Two Little Souls
Every kid will be possessive about their Mom. Twins are in no way different from this. They feel they own their Mom more than anyone else including their twin sibling. As twins, they don’t get much alone time with their mom and they feel that her love is always shared.
This makes them even more possessive and urge them to find every opportunity to cling to her.
You will often hear,
“Carry me Mommy! Only Me!
I want to sit on your lap!
I will hold your hands while walking! Let’s go alone for a walk”.
You will hear this not from one but both your kids.
As a twin mom, you will feel overwhelmed about the double love that is pouring into you. But sooner you will wonder how to satisfy each of them without hurting the other.
When you care for an ill child, the other twin will try to grasp your attention by complaining that he is also not well. All the explanations you give will not convince the longing child.
However in due course, you will know how to assure them that Mommy’s love is always there and they need not worry.
You provide balanced love to two little souls!
#7 Survive Prolonged Sick Days
Whenever a child is sick, the stress levels of the parents are very high. The worry about your kid’s health, sleepless nights and pampering the restless kid will make you tired both physically and mentally.
While raising twin toddlers, the sick days can be prolonged. Either both of them will be unwell together or one will fall ill followed by the other. In any case, you will become super dooper tired and feel yourself to be ailing.
You can sometimes avoid this by separating the twins when one of them is sick. But still it may not work every time and the other twin may also fall ill in few days. This will not be under your control and you will get used to it. Once a virus starts attacking, it will never rest until taking the breath out of you. LoL 🙂
You survive prolonged sick days !
#8 Sleep in a Straight Position for Hours
If you are co-sleeping with your twins, then you will be facing a weird issue. As I said your twins will be very possessive about you and they want you by their side always. So, while co-sleeping you will plan to sleep in between them (laying them on both your sides).
This doesn’t end here. If you want to roll up on one of your sides while sleeping, soon the child on the other side will demand you to turn towards him. And when you do that, you will feel a hand pulling you to roll back to the previous position.
Finally you will end up sleeping straight whether or not it is comfortable for you. Of course sandwiched between your twin darlings, you cannot move in any direction. 🙂
You sleep in a straight position for hours!
#9 Do Repetitive Chores with Zeal
Twins will give you double joy but demand double chores. Whether it is nursing, bathing, diapering, brushing, feeding, dressing or any chore related to the twins, you have to repeat. Repeat everything again and end up doing the same thing monotonously.
For instance, whenever you start to eat, one of your twins will inform that he needs to use the potty. Once he finishes and you continue with your meal, the other one will show signs of creating an accident and you rush him to the potty again. You will end up having an elaborate lunch with potty breaks 🙂
In the beginning, all these will make you tired, increase your stress factor and sometimes even make you scream out of exhaustion. You will later perceive there is no other way out of this and start enjoying these everyday double duties.
You do repetitive chores with zeal !
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#10 Manage Finance Efficiently
The general ideology about having twins is that you will have double the expenses. But it may not be true all the time. Though you may initially buy everything in doubles but very soon you will realize this is not going to work.
You will begin to scrutinize which needs to be in double and which can be shared. You will plan well ahead and save for the future expenses, as you have to give your best to two buddies.
You manage finance efficiently!
#11 Multitask Anywhere, Anytime
If you are raising twin toddlers alone with no help, then you will master in multitasking very fast.
With two kids on board, you need to stay around them most of your time. Taking care of their daily routines, feeding, taking them out, playing with them and making sure they don’t hurt each other while playing – all these will occupy most of your day.
You have to take care of the other errands in parallel to watching out your twins. Or you will get only very few hours when they nap, when you have to juggle and finish up all the other chores. You will be forced to multitask and you will become an expert in no time.
You multitask anywhere, anytime !
The transition from a Twin Mom to Super Mom
By the end of the day, everyone would wonder “how she is managing to raise two, when we struggle to raise one active child”. You don’t need the skills on board. Your twins will train you as they grow. You learn extensively from raising twin toddlers.
Amidst all the busy, exhausting life, take time to sit and look back. You will realize how much your twins have groomed you. Of course in a positive way.
As days pass by, they will grow older and become more independent. But the skills they have implanted in you will remain with you forever.
So never get stressed about all the tiresome work you have to carry on for your twins. Rather adore them and feel blessed for having this opportunity to learn and get molded.
Pull the positives from all your stress and strain.
Appreciate the fact, how your twins have transformed their TWIN MOM into a SUPER MOM!
This is my little list and it grows steadily. What other skills do you think you have developed from raising your babies? Please share your thoughts in the comments section!
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